Recently, I’ve been thinking about dating, but there are very few people of the opposite sex around me. What should I do? Among all the brothers I know, 99% of their relationship problems lie in the fact that they don’t have enough choices. So, if you can solve the problem of having few opposite-sex people around you, you can 100% solve the problem of being single!
1. Your circle
The circle of friends stems from your interests and hobbies. What are the interests and hobbies of many boys? If it’s playing games, reading novels or browsing Douyin, then what do they all belong to? Single-player sports. What is single-player sports? They are all things you need to do alone. You don’t need other friends
You don’t need to get along with the opposite sex either. You can do all these things. So if you want to change your circle of friends, you first need to change your behavior pattern and lifestyle. You should turn single-player games into connected ones and do some things that require many people to complete together, such as murder mystery games. One person can’t play murder mystery games. Then if you play murder mystery games every day, you have to force yourself to be with many people. For instance, going out to sing or engaging in such social activities that you can’t do alone, you need to cultivate some
Some hobbies and interests that everyone can make progress in together.
For instance, if you are going skiing, you can do it alone. But in order to improve your skiing skills, you won’t join more groups or invite these friends to make progress together, right? So, if you want to change the situation where there are no opposite-sex people around you, the first thing you need to do is to change your solo mode.
2. Develop the opposite sex into good friends rather than girlfriends
Many men have only two criteria for girls: either they like them or they don’t. If they like someone, they want to be their girlfriend. If they don’t like someone, they won’t say a word. So often, before you have enough ability to get along with women, you may not be able to handle the girl you like, which leads to her not wanting to talk to you and not paying attention to the girl you don’t like. So you don’t have a single opposite-sex friend in your life. Therefore, you need to change this way of thinking and learn to be friends with different girls.
3. Develop various opposite-sex friends
A true man of the opposite sex has one trait: he can treat the woman he likes as a friend to get along with. Can you do that? Can you tolerate the girl you like dating another guy? Many men can’t. When they see the girl they like dating another man, they cut off contact. But in fact, such a girl still has her best friends and her social circle. When you become her friend, she will introduce other girls to you.
The same goes for those girls you don’t like. So, you are narrowing your own path. The first one has few hobbies and interests, no social circle, and plays single-player games. The second girl you met has blocked all possibilities. If you want to increase your opposite-sex friends, you first need to solve these two problems.
